Oh, "Aunt Viv" You'd Be The First...

Janet Hubert DOES NOT love Will Smith. In fact, in the twenty or so years since Fresh Prince has gone off the air, Janet Hubert has nursed a hatred so powerful of Will Smith that it extends to his wife, and no doubt to his children...

How do I know this? Well, let's look back to Janet Hubert's iconic role, that of "Aunt Viv" of Fresh Prince, when Aunt Viv introduced America (and the world) to a SEXY, dark-skinned black MOTHER. Oh, there have been sexy black women, and there have been dark-skinned black women, and one or two have transcended and been sexy, dark-skinned... but sexy,dark-skinned, educated AND maternal? Honey, Aunt Viv broke the mold.

And we loved her. Then she disappeared. We mourned. Fresh Prince went on, and was good, but never the same again.

When Janet Hubert resurfaced, it was to tell the world that her dismissal from Fresh Prince of Bel Air. It was a sad, sordid tale, and no doubt there was blame to go all around. Will Smith was a young man, and a star already --popular, charming, rich, a rapper--when he joined an ensemble cast as the star. He was the main attraction. That alone would go to anyone's head. And apparently, the whole cast went with him on the firing of Janet Hubert. But here's the thing: Will Smith experienced a devastating broken heart. It made him a better man.

Janet Hubert, on the other hand, has not been seen  anything else (to my knowledge) and here --in her behavior and demeanor, we can see why. She is bitter. She is hateful. She has never once, except to say that she went through severe mood changes during and after her pregnancy ON Fresh Prince, accepted responsibility in the firing. And she still harbors an earth-core deep hatred of Will Smith, so much so that...

Jada Pinkett-Smith, who has had nothing bad to say about Janet, and perhaps has nothing but love for "Aunt Viv" is now on the receiving end of Janet's vitriol. What did Jada do?

Nothing, except have a Rosa Parks moment in calling for a boycott of  the #OscarsSoWhite 2016. Janet Hubert responded with a nauseating mendacious rebuttal mention "poor people having to pay bills." Oh yes, the ubiquitous "poor people". Let's not improve their lives, whatsoever. Let's keep them in scraps, content to "pay bills". You know what, Janet Hubert? You should be ashamed of yourself.

Because "Aunt Viv" would have been the FIRST to call for an Oscar boycott; and would have applauded Jada Pinkett-Smith. Aunt Viv is a better person than YOU, Janet Hubert. And that is my opinion: "Aunt Viv" I love -- this Janet Hubert person... Who is she? NOT "Aunt Viv", by any measure.

Can't "Keep A Man"? Here's Why...

I am going to be as blunt as possible. I may even use an imprecation or two... Most of you who've ever used the phrase "She can't keep a man" will have to use the dictionary to look up the word IMPRECATION, because you're all ignorant fucks,

What man who can be kept is worth keeping???

Don't answer that, because some of you are in "relationships" that are nothing short of vehicles of a cycle of abuse, shame, bad sex and lonely nights with cheating, lying scumbags, but you write on Social Media about how Halle Berry "cannot keep a man." Here's news for you: When a man stops putting an effort in your relationship, it's time for him to go. And maybe it h'as something to do with you; maybe it has something to do with him-- it doesn't change the fact that the relationship no longer suits you.

And if you're a woman, evolving, growing, transcending as time goes on, the problem is not you.

In a growing relationship, a man keeps a woman feeling that she's important to him. When he fucks up, he SHOWS her that he's sorry about it. He's got her back, and he trusts himself to be his best to her, and he is always showing up for that "dance" that is theirs, alone.

When a man stops doing that, he's telling you something, and you should listen. Does he want to work on it? Does he follow up his words with action?

If a man needs to be "kept", he's not a man, PERIOD.

Here's why I think the phrase "keep a man" is bullshit. Every woman I see who uses the phrase, with all seriousness, has some serious self-esteem issues, and herself is desperately hanging on to someone.

Now which woman of substance does that? Tell me.

No woman in a good relationship EVER talks about "keeping a man", because she's in a dynamic partnership where she feels cherished and loved and she gives love in return. She knows just how much it's magic and discovery and work at the same time because she has a willing, loving, caring partner who can be hurt by her actions--just as he is aware of how important her happiness is to him.

Women in relationships where they make compromises are the ones who talk about "keeping a man" because they put up with bullshit and bend and twist and sway, indulging a selfish human being who stays only because he knows she puts up with his shit, and he has a certain amount that he can get away with. He's comfortable. That's what is meant by being KEPT. And only women who are afraid of being alone "KEEP"these kind of men. No one of substance, however, WANT them.