I am going to be as blunt as possible. I may even use an imprecation or two... Most of you who've ever used the phrase "She can't keep a man" will have to use the dictionary to look up the word IMPRECATION, because you're all ignorant fucks,
What man who can be kept is worth keeping???
Don't answer that, because some of you are in "relationships" that are nothing short of vehicles of a cycle of abuse, shame, bad sex and lonely nights with cheating, lying scumbags, but you write on Social Media about how Halle Berry "cannot keep a man." Here's news for you: When a man stops putting an effort in your relationship, it's time for him to go. And maybe it h'as something to do with you; maybe it has something to do with him-- it doesn't change the fact that the relationship no longer suits you.
And if you're a woman, evolving, growing, transcending as time goes on, the problem is not you.
In a growing relationship, a man keeps a woman feeling that she's important to him. When he fucks up, he SHOWS her that he's sorry about it. He's got her back, and he trusts himself to be his best to her, and he is always showing up for that "dance" that is theirs, alone.
When a man stops doing that, he's telling you something, and you should listen. Does he want to work on it? Does he follow up his words with action?
If a man needs to be "kept", he's not a man, PERIOD.
Here's why I think the phrase "keep a man" is bullshit. Every woman I see who uses the phrase, with all seriousness, has some serious self-esteem issues, and herself is desperately hanging on to someone.
Now which woman of substance does that? Tell me.
No woman in a good relationship EVER talks about "keeping a man", because she's in a dynamic partnership where she feels cherished and loved and she gives love in return. She knows just how much it's magic and discovery and work at the same time because she has a willing, loving, caring partner who can be hurt by her actions--just as he is aware of how important her happiness is to him.
Women in relationships where they make compromises are the ones who talk about "keeping a man" because they put up with bullshit and bend and twist and sway, indulging a selfish human being who stays only because he knows she puts up with his shit, and he has a certain amount that he can get away with. He's comfortable. That's what is meant by being KEPT. And only women who are afraid of being alone "KEEP"these kind of men. No one of substance, however, WANT them.
What man who can be kept is worth keeping???
Don't answer that, because some of you are in "relationships" that are nothing short of vehicles of a cycle of abuse, shame, bad sex and lonely nights with cheating, lying scumbags, but you write on Social Media about how Halle Berry "cannot keep a man." Here's news for you: When a man stops putting an effort in your relationship, it's time for him to go. And maybe it h'as something to do with you; maybe it has something to do with him-- it doesn't change the fact that the relationship no longer suits you.
And if you're a woman, evolving, growing, transcending as time goes on, the problem is not you.
In a growing relationship, a man keeps a woman feeling that she's important to him. When he fucks up, he SHOWS her that he's sorry about it. He's got her back, and he trusts himself to be his best to her, and he is always showing up for that "dance" that is theirs, alone.
When a man stops doing that, he's telling you something, and you should listen. Does he want to work on it? Does he follow up his words with action?
If a man needs to be "kept", he's not a man, PERIOD.
Here's why I think the phrase "keep a man" is bullshit. Every woman I see who uses the phrase, with all seriousness, has some serious self-esteem issues, and herself is desperately hanging on to someone.
Now which woman of substance does that? Tell me.
No woman in a good relationship EVER talks about "keeping a man", because she's in a dynamic partnership where she feels cherished and loved and she gives love in return. She knows just how much it's magic and discovery and work at the same time because she has a willing, loving, caring partner who can be hurt by her actions--just as he is aware of how important her happiness is to him.
Women in relationships where they make compromises are the ones who talk about "keeping a man" because they put up with bullshit and bend and twist and sway, indulging a selfish human being who stays only because he knows she puts up with his shit, and he has a certain amount that he can get away with. He's comfortable. That's what is meant by being KEPT. And only women who are afraid of being alone "KEEP"these kind of men. No one of substance, however, WANT them.
If either or, have to push it to a limit of such degree they don't need to be together because they are making it a game of who's the best. It's not about that. It's about self respect and, respect for one another, if you can't come to a meeting of the minds try and not waist too much time and, move on the right one is out there keep looking and, good luck.
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